Let me first just say, something you come to realize after some time is that something nobody can take from you is your journey in life. Everyone’s journey is uniquely beautiful – kind of like how every sunset is uniquely beautiful in it’s own way. We all have the freedom to flow and explore life however we desire, in order to get to a place where we feel aligned and closer to source. The weird thing is, God doesn’t judge anyone’s journey back to Him, He just wants to make the journey easier for us. However sometimes we’re still just young and dumb and think we can outsmart God (Pfff…) They say the best way to learn is from other people’s mistakes, but sometimes we just need to make our own mistakes to realize the magnitude of the value of how we approach that specific area of life. There’s something beautiful in the juxtaposition and naïve-ness of not knowing something, allowing the hurt to chisel and refine us to our core, and coming out of it smarter, wiser and more beautiful on the other side. Sure, you may have been way better without going through it. But the mistake happens, and the great thing is that there is hope and you’re not stuck there – we have the power to 100% restore and heal ourselves back to our vibrant exuberant selves even after whatever mistake we made or allowed in our naiveness. And so sometimes you just have to go through those toxic unhealthy self-destructive phases to realize – oh wait, it’s not working, it’s only keeping me in a cycle and bringing temporary happiness. God was right all along (like He always is).
You’re also allowed to pause and disassociate from the notifications on your phone in order to do some soul navigating. Maybe you’ll let down a few people by not responding to texts about nothing, but you’ll definitely impress God by your willingness to get serious about the essence of life. You’re allowed to exist without proving your worth. That is one of those things you’ll quickly realize if you just put away the distractions and stare at the ceiling for a bit. That your merits are not what define you. How you help others, yourself, and the community plays a big role – Yes. However that also doesn’t define us. We are worthy just as we are- just existing. We are worthy just by blissfully existing. Yes, that’s a fact but don’t get me wrong, it’s also not an excuse to do nothing.
Although we are human-beings, we are also human – doings. We were created to do just as Jesus did. The fact that Jesus wasn’t even married or in a relationship and he was still deemed to be the happiest person on earth. Hm, maybe that’s the key to happiness. Kidding. Although it does prove that being or not being in a relationship doesn’t really matter in the things of God. Much of it had to do with Jesus simply loving what was right and hating what was wrong. It’s that simple. That is why He was “anointed with the oil of gladness.” Aka, God gave him happiness. Of course in our day and time, these things are easy to say but hard to do. We are surrounded by a plethora of influences making us question whether we’re too old-school or whether we should adapt to the modern ways. But it’s simple really. Love what is right. Hate what is wrong. People always wonder – well, what is right? that is so vague, you don’t understand my situation, like the bible doesn’t really talk about my situation. Okay. Well, just ask yourself – What would Jesus do or what do you think Jesus would tell you? Most people know the answer but are still influenced by modern views or their emotions. Guess what. God doesn’t care about your emotions or feelings.(Harsh, I know, sorry.) God cares that what you are doing is right, and is backed up by His Word. Sometimes we have to realize that yes – tuning in with our emotions is healthy. However letting emotions control you is not. We need to let emotions do what they do, and let them pass like a storm, and then get back to our normal ideal selves by doing what is right. So yes, God doesn’t care about your feelings. He cares about you doing what is right so that you can experience unending joy because of that. Because afterall, God is always on our side. Joy is a long-lasting state of being, not necessarily a feeling or emotion. Joy is promised by God and something we should strive towards. Those who possess the holy spirit can tap into that fountain of joy from God whenever they want to, really.
There is so much joy ahead for us. In Romans 14:17, it states, “For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.”
In Psalm 16:11, the psalmist writes, “You make known to me the path of life; You will fill me with joy in Your presence, with eternal pleasures at Your right hand.”